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10 Months. Time heals.

It’s ten months since I downed my last glass of wine and said ‘that’s it!’

Woo hoo! I really didn’t think that would be it for me but something clicked and here I am.

I don’t know when drinking stopped being enjoyable but it had become something I did compulsively, by myself, just me and my head most of the time. Sure, I still had social occasions when I drank and it felt ok, acceptable, fun even,  but overall, even socially, it felt like a chore. I had to count units, drink slowly, wait for others to finish their drink, worry if there would be enough, more, more, I want more!

Looking back now I can’t believe the hold it had over me and I truly didn’t believe I had a choice or that there was any other option. I simply could not see a life without alcohol in it. But here I am with 300 plus days and the finish line is in sight…right?

A whole year sober.  That became my goal once I had done 100 days, followed by another 100, then another. Experience everything sober, holidays, birthdays, weddings and the dreaded Christmas and New Year!”

I have lots of things in my ‘sober tool box’ that helped to get me this far

 

  • A      special drink in a favourite glass, usually elderflower, cranberry and      soda or something with ginger in a wine or cocktail glass.

 (I found it easier to carry on with having the same routines if I had that ‘prop’ in my hand and it really worked. I would forget after a few minutes that I wasn’t drinking and of course the drink in my glass actually tasted really good too. I still find it hard to empty a wine glass with the remains of an elderflower cordial down the sink? How bizarre is that?)

  • Movies,      I have watched more films in ten months than I have in the last ten years,      my lovefilm subscription was a lifesaver
  • Lots      of treats, chocolate every day, cake at least once a week.  Didn’t loose any weight for the first six      months.
  • Relaxing      baths with scented candles
  • Reading      (finishing books and remembering what I have read)
  • Having      one person in real life that I can talk to about how I am feeling…my      wonderfully supportive husband.
  • The      sober online community and the many supportive friends I have made.
  • Blogging,      reading blogs and listening to the Bubble Hour over and over
  • Group      exercise classes, making the most of the hangover free weekend early      starts
  • Staying      in, staying in and more staying in. It’s not forever, just the first few      weeks. Going out and socialising does get easier and will be fun again but      is just hard work in the beginning.
  • Early      nights and lots of new bedding. I have such lovely restful nights now. 

By far the biggest thing that I have put into my sobriety is time. There is something about crossing off days, clocking up time, digging in and just waiting for it to pass that counts beyond belief towards feeling better about being sober. Sometimes it goes quickly and easily other times it seems like a painfully slow, endless road to nowhere. But sticking with it, hanging in there, just being…heals. From six to eight months, I felt I’d taken giant leaps in my sobriety and again from eight to ten months it’s happened again. I can only explain this feeling (which is wonderful) to be down to time alone. It really does heal. Sobriety feels fantastic, like I’ve found the key to making my life work. I’m exploring who I am and have started to create a whole new life for myself. New routines, hobbies, interests and a more enthusiastic approach to my career are just a few of things I have embraced in the last few months.  

So, when I wonder if I will make it to a year and beyond that, I am excited to see what happens rather than worrying about forever. I am really not frightened of ‘forever’ anymore. The effort feels more like it’s about my life as a whole than just my sobriety singled out.

When you get sober, yes, you do spend a whole lot of time thinking. But it’s not all about not drinking, it’s about sorting your shit out and getting more out of your life, especially if you feel like you’ve wasted a whole lot of it drinking and being hung over. I devoted enough of my life to drinking so I am more than prepared to give sobriety a bit more of my precious time. So, onwards to one year!

 

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42 thoughts on “10 Months. Time heals.

  1. Congrats on 10 months! Yes, time and effort…that is what our recovery needs. not 24/7 (even if it feels like it at times), but like anything worth it’s weight, it takes work. And you are clearly doing work on this 🙂

    Blessings,
    Paul

  2. Carrie!!!!! I am so proud of you. HUGS!!!! Girly shrieks! Laughter!

    My time sober has been my biggest burden (at first) then my biggest gift. I’m so happy you share that goodness with me. Forever doesn’t seem so bad when life is so damn good. (and even when it isn’t good, it’s better than booze)

    Love this post and your sober suggestions. 🙂 xoxoxo

  3. There is something about crossing off days, clocking up time, digging in and just waiting for it to pass that counts beyond belief towards feeling better about being sober. — You know it!

    Right behind you, girl! I’ve been so blessed to discover your blog; I feel like we’ve been on the same page a lot, and just reading what you’re thinking has helped me get through many a “fuck it” moment. Onwards to 365! Hugs…

    • Thanks Sherry. Yes, you get your whole being back, it’s so much more than not being drunk!
      Comment for you lost twice earlier…
      Great 2nd resume! Good luck to you both, I’d give him a job, he ‘s a good ‘un!
      X

  4. Congrats on 10 months, Carrie! I find it really helpful what you say about the end days of your drinking. I’m just realizing that I think I want to be a social drinker, but drinking socially is quite a bit of work for me, and it really only makes me want to drink my fill alone some time later. I didn’t know other people had that, too. It’s really heartening to see how well you’re doing, and to see one more person for whom it gets better with time. Thanks for the inspiration!

  5. Oh my GAWD this is fantastic!! What an amazing post full of such hope for people at an earlier stage than you. So so great.. and so so right.. all we have to do is dig in and get through and the more time that passes without us drinking the better it gets. This is so fabulous and I am so utterly bursting with happiness for you. New bedding, now that’s what I need in my life! xxx

    • I am happier than ever! New bedding for your new house!
      A bit of sugar (ok a lot of sugar!) is always going to be ok when it’s a shitty day. It’s not a drink and that’s all that matters. I just love cereal at bedtime, reminds me of being a kid 🙂
      Good luck with the move xx

  6. Love everything about this post! I am a few months behind you (just past 6) and feeling inspired. (Um, also, does this mean I’m finally going to start losing weight at some point?! 🙂
    Kristi

  7. This is fantastic.. I love the idea of the time.. I have wasted so much time on getting wasted.. I love remembering and feeling and reading.. Great post and inspiration!

  8. forgot to comment on this despite bookmarking it and coming back to read it a number of times as it was so inspirational! it’s all about me at the moment I’m afraid 😉 This is one of my many favourite bits:

    ‘By far the biggest thing that I have put into my sobriety is time. There is something about crossing off days, clocking up time, digging in and just waiting for it to pass that counts beyond belief towards feeling better about being sober.’

    well done on your 10 months and wishing you many more such!

  9. Congrats on the continued sobriety! I remember the shift from “my life is over if I can never drink again” to “I love my sober life” love reading your posts because it reminds me of my own journey!

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  13. Carry ON!!!! Iam celebrating ten months today of no alcohol… I’ve been a binge drinker for 30 years…. But your testimony is gifting! Thank you and God Bless You!!!

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